Episode•April 13, 2023•23 min

How To Implement Effective Self Care Into Your Life with Unique Figueroa | Ep. 220

Self-care is so important, but it's often one of the first things to go when feeling overwhelmed. In this episode, Unique shares her tips for how to make self-care a priority in your life, even when you don't feel like it! About Our Guest Unique Figueroa is here to help you dive into your most authentic self! She's the brains behind "Becoming Unique"- a lifestyle experience that inspires us all to live life with high vibrations and strive for ultimate well-being. Podcasts, affirmation teas & her own Self-Care workbook are just some of the amazing tools she provides so we can truly become our fullest selves. After finally deciding it was time to step into her true identity -she aptly christened herself ‘Becoming Unique’! Through courageously exploring both personal growth & love practices plus writing an inspiring book – this powerful author/podcaster/entrepreneur aims to empower everyone to discover their true essence… Let's get ready for real transformation; It’s Becoming YOU(nique)! Connect with Unique Website - https://www.becomingunique.com/becomingunique Facebook - Becoming Unique Podcast Instagram - Becoming__Unique This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podcorn - https://podcorn.com/privacy OP3 - https://op3.dev/privacy

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Key Takeaways

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Self-care is deeply personal and has no universal definition
Each person must discover their own 'prescription' for self-care
It can range from setting boundaries to simply making time to read
Signs you need self-care include constant exhaustion, unexplained triggers, and frequent illness
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Self-care is not selfish—it's essential for everyone
Unique realized after 40+ years she had been neglecting herself while caring for others
Children observe and may replicate parental burnout patterns
The 'strong Black woman' narrative needs softening to break generational cycles
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Setting boundaries with family requires grace and mindset shifts
Family may resist new boundaries because they've been 'trained' to expect unlimited availability
Hold grace for yourself and others when changing established dynamics
Remember: 'You are an important person in your own life'
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The power of 'I am' statements reshapes self-perception
Negative self-talk like 'I am tired' or 'I am broke' reinforces low-vibration states
Daily high-vibration affirmations can counteract negative internal narratives
Five minutes of positive self-talk before leaving the house sets a better tone for the day
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Journaling helps uncover authentic desires buried by societal expectations
Society, parents, teachers, and media have dictated how we 'should' live
Journaling prompts help identify what you actually like versus what you've been told to like
The workbook is designed as a 12-week journey, not a quick read

Intro

In this episode of Money Talk with Tiff, host Tiff welcomes Unique Figueroa to discuss self-care and self-love—topics not previously covered on the show—emphasizing their importance especially when feeling overwhelmed.
Unique Figueroa is the creator of 'Becoming Unique,' a lifestyle experience focused on high vibrations and well-being. She is an author, podcaster, and entrepreneur who provides tools including podcasts, affirmation teas, and a self-care workbook to help people discover their true essence.

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– Defining Self-Care

There is no one definition to self-care. Self-care can look different for each and every one of us.
– Unique Figueroa

Unique explains that self-care is personal—what works for one person (like spa days) may not work for another. The key is mindfulness and tuning into what fills your specific gaps.

– Unique's Journey to Self-Care

Unique describes herself as a 'wounded warrior' who didn't understand self-care's value until five years ago. She was constantly pouring into others as a mother while neglecting herself.

I started to slowly make space for myself. And once I started to slowly make space for myself, I started to realize, wait a minute, there's a shift happening.
– Unique Figueroa

– Recognizing the Need for Self-Care

Warning signs include constant exhaustion, unexplained triggers, snapping at people, and frequent illness. Boundaries are a crucial form of self-care that can apply to family and loved ones.

Self-care is a currency and self-love.
– Unique Figueroa

– Setting Boundaries with Family

Family may resist new boundaries because they've been accustomed to the old dynamic. Unique advises holding grace for yourself and others while staying committed to your needs.

Self-care isn't selfish and don't allow someone else to make you feel that way. You are important.
– Unique Figueroa

– Modeling Self-Care for Children

Children watch their parents. If they see constant burnout, they may internalize that as normal. Unique encourages breaking generational patterns like the 'strong Black woman' narrative.

We want to be mindful of that as well too because we want to start to break those routines that we've been used to looking at.
– Unique Figueroa

– The Self-Care Workbook

Unique's book is a 12-week workbook (under 100 pages) designed to be worked through, not just read. It includes chapters on preparation, affirmations, journaling, and more.

What follows I am defines us. If you say, I am tired, I am sick... that's the direction that we're going.
– Unique Figueroa

– Where to Find Unique and Her Work

The book is available on Amazon. Unique's podcast 'Becoming Unique' covers wellness, health, and high-vibration living. Links are provided in the show notes.